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~*Soul Mate*~

Earlier this week I spent some time with one of my best friend's and we wound up having a pretty deep discussion. One of the topics that came up was about Soul Mates and we each shared our thoughts about it. Growing up I always had this thought that a Soul Mate is the one person that compliments you and was made for you to ultimately be with in life. While we are meant to date around and experience things to help us grow, the person we are meant to marry and be with is our Soul Mate.

Last year, I did something completely out of the norm for me but something I had always been curious about, I went to a psychic. It turned out to be the most intriguing, eye opening, and eerie experience I had been through to date. The lady said so much stuff that was impossible for her to know, yet she did. One of the things she stated was about my Soul Mate, she stated that the person I was dealing with at the time was actually my Soul Mate and I was in total shock. Anyway, long story short...I left there confused with that statement because I couldn't see how and I felt like that couldn't be since he and I are no more. Me being the person I am I couldn't help but think I had lost my Soul Mate already, how could this be?....

So recently a friend brought to my attention some reading material (don't remember the name) that basically stated 'a soul mate can be more than one person, it can be your closest of friends, your family, or/and a lover.' That got me to start thinking outside of my "thought" of what a soul mate was because it made sense. My closest of friends mean the world to me they touch me in a way that can't be explained and so do certain family members, GOD willing they will be with me for the rest of my life, in that they are my soul mates (so I believe in what I read). Then yesterday (going back to my conversation with my friend) she brings out the book, Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert (yes, the movie was made based on this book). Gilbert stated in her book, "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..."

This statement smacked me right across the face (deep, right? LoL) and so many things that had been running through my mind including the words of the psychic and the confusion I held from my previous situations made sense to me. While everybody may have their own thought/ idea as to what a Soul Mate is to them, I will say i have evolved my opinion and the last two statements I mentioned (the reading material and the Gilbert statement) definitely mean the most to me and shape my definition of a Soul Mate.

What does a Soul Mate mean to you?

***Happy 2011***

We may be already into January, but Happy 2011 nonetheless. I have big plans for this year and I can't wait for the changes to show. Below are a few of the quotes that have helped me and that I have just enjoyed reading from 2010 and back.

"I'd rather keep a small circle of the realest than a big @$$ box of some squares. Get in shape wit yourself!"

"The ones that are meant to be a part of your story will be. The others - let them go."

A true friend doesn't support & agree with you on everything. He/she only agrees to support what is RIGHT for you.

"Friendship is not friendship without trust, without it I walk alone."

- James P. Michels Jr.

"When you bring folks from your past into your

present, that's like turning around backwards to walk forward."

'The player always ends up played. When u attempt to play the one who actually cares about you, you're actually playing yourself.'

"Never downgrade your standards for someone below your standards."

"You cannot care about everything and stay sane. You cannot care about nothing and stay human." ~K. Whitehorn

"I'm my bestfriend and I'm my worst enemy, no-one else can hurt me unless I let them..."

When you REALLY know your VALUE you don't ALLOW someone to SET you up to LET YOU DOWN again.... And again.. And again.. And again..!!

Its amazing how People can spread half truths to keep themselves from looking like complete Assholes. I mean if you are as real as you claim to be, stop putting on this front!!!- Me

"As time goes by I watch them drop like flies, which is fine because sometimes you just outgrow people, but the doesn’t mean the love isn’t still alive. True love never dies, but sometimes you’ve just got to say goodbye."

"If things around you don't change, change the things you're around!"

"This is #1 in the hater rule book :::People CAN NOT love you if they Hate themselves"

"Never Ignore A Person Who Loves And Cares For You. One Day You May Realize You've Lost The Moon While Counting The Stars!"

"Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?"

-- Leo Buscaglia

"God loves EVERYONE......glad I'm NOT God..."

"Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness...learn from your mistakes but never regret"

"...some people are in our life for a season and some are there for a lifetime. Seasonal people are meant for us to learn a lesson and when that lesson is taught, they are gone. We mess up when we confuse those seasonal people for lifetime people.."

The start of my 2011 list:

"A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, smile often, dream big , laugh a lot, & realize how blessed you are for what you have."