~Thankful~

HAPPY THANKSGIVING 2010


My posting may be a little late but I hope everyone
had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Whether you have a big
family or a small one, be thankful of the Love you have.
I have learned a lot in the last few years, but one thing
I have learned is that I am truly thankful for my mother and sister,
the few real friends that I have; who have stuck by me
and helped me through various situations, and even
the seasonal people who have helped me know that I
can be stronger than I ever thought possible.

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words,but to live by them.

~*Real Talk*~

"Friendship is not friendship without trust, without it I walk alone."
- James P. Michels Jr.


It's been a while since my last post...just been super busy. I am in the process of posting a recipe I tried out, but taking a break from that I have been through a lot the last few weeks and need to vent a little. Basically, I'm trying to figure out how the hell can I possibly get myself in similar situations back to back. I am at a point in the situation where there is the potential of losing a dear friend someone I thought I could talk to about anything. My friend blindsided one of his 'friend's' with meeting someone new in his life when she didn't even want to meet them. Upon their introduction the new person tells the 'friend' "I've heard so much about you" when in turn my dear friend has revealed nothing bout this new person to the 'friend'. The 'friend' is confused about what could this person know about me (she has confided a lot to my dear friend). Now comes my situation I have been through a lot with my dear friend, but what I don't understand is if I mean as much as they say I mean to them, why have I yet to hear about this person or know anything/as much as everyone else does? Why didn't my dear friend tell me they were coming or that an introduction was wanted? Now when I really think on it, what has been told to this person about me, have convos I confided in my dear friend been revealed? Why is it such a big issue to talk to me, it wasn't hard before but now it is...why? Overall, I feel like I've been shitted on and my friendship meant absolutely nothing this whole time, but when I look back on all that we have done for one another and how alike we are I just think somethings not right, this can't be happening. The way I see it, why not just be upfront, trusting and honest with me I would have. My fear is the trust in my friendship may be broken because who knows what this person may know and from here on out when I confide something who is to say my dear friend won't go back and tell it without my knowledge.

Has anyone else experienced this? Any suggestions?

***Discussion***

Today I got into a debate with one of my friends about who cheats more men or women. So, my friend (male) believes that women cheat more and are better at hiding their "dirt" so you would never know. Also, the women that complain about "all guys are cheaters" are the ones who get involved with the "bad guy." Women should take time to go for the "good guys" that will love them and not treat them badly.

My Opinion: I argued the fact that men DO cheat more than women. I do believe women cheat but it is far easier for a guy to cheat regardless of how good a woman is at "hiding" her "dirt." The one thing that I have heard time and time again is the fact that men can have sex with someone and not have any emotions attached. While in turn women are emotional beings by nature, not saying that all women can't sleep with someone without emotions coming into play, but a good amount can not deal with the burden or emotions of it. I believe if a woman cheats there is a reason behind it, again not to say this for every woman but for a good amount it is the case. As a woman I find that some of the major reasons include no longer feeling appreciated, becoming dissatisfied with the relationship, changes in the partner and self, and the most notably one following the age old saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" meaning being spiteful and cheating as a form of payback. Guys on the other hand, coming from people I have known and talked to, need no reason at all. Temptation is a mans worst enemy and typically if the opportunity presents itself men are going to take it, I do not believe in putting every guy in the same category, so I will say that I believe this theory to be true for some men(those that cheat).

As far as the statement about woman going for the "bad guys" I will agree to that, I myself have fallen victim to it. Although, most don't want to admit it the same is true for most guys, they tend to go to the women that are ultimately the "bad woman." Once that happens guys start placing all women in a "box"(explaining women as being all the same), which isn't true but then it becomes hard trying to open their eyes to that fact. Unfortunately I don't think anything can change this vicious cycle of nature :-(.

~♥~To The Wonderful PEOPLE In My Circle~♥~

I went back and found this poem that touched my heart. This was written for female friends, but I changed some words for my male friends, but you get the idea of the poem......and I didn't write this but I LOVE it!!!

To the Wonderful People In My Circle

When I was little,
I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
and then I started to become a woman.
And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,
God would show you the best in many friends.
One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.
One friend will say, "Let's cry together,"
another, "Let's fight together,"
another, "Let's walk away together."
One friend will meet your spiritual need,
another your shoe fetish,
another your love for movies,
another will be with you in your season of confusion,
another will be your clarifier,
another the wind beneath your wings.
But whatever their assignment in your life,
on whatever the occasion,
on whatever the day,
or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself ...
those are your best friends.
It may all be wrapped up in one person,
but for many, it's wrapped up in several...
one from 7th grade,
one from high school,
several from the college years,
a couple from old jobs,
on some days your mother,
on some days your neighbor,
on others, your sisters,
and on some days, your daughters.

***Don't Waste My Time...***

Here's a poem that I just agree 100% with, at times it may be hard but it is something that needs to be done.

Don't spend major time with minor people.

If there are people in your life that continually
disappoint you, break promises, and stomp on your dreams,
too judgmental, have different values and don't have your
back during difficult times...that is not a friend.
To have a friend, be a friend. Sometimes in life as you grow,
your friends will either grow or go. Surround yourself with
people who reflect values, goals interests and lifestyle.
When I think of any of my successes, I am thankful to GOD
from whom all blessings flow, and to my family and friends that
enrich my life. Over the years my phone book has changed because
I changed for the better. At first you think you're going to be alone, but after a while new people show up in your life that make your life so much sweeter and easier to endure.
Remember what your elders used to say, "Birds of a feather flock together.
If you're an eagle, don't hang around chickens: Chickens Can't Fly!