*Question Time*

"Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"

Do you believe the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater" to be a fact???

I have had this conversation on several occasions with several different people.

My opinion: I do believe the phrase to be fact but it depends on the person. I think this phrase is more prone to the younger generation of today, not to say that older married men/women don't cheat, but they have a lot more to lose (financial, family, respect, and Love).

When I say younger generation I mean on the scale of those couples that are dating from teens to about 30s. I have known several people on the younger scale that have cheated and after being caught or not caught (as you can see I have not stated confess) they continued to cheat as if they were not even in a relationship. I've never understood the fact of cheating on a constant basis and staying in the relationship, why not be true to the person (that you supposedly had to have loved/liked at some point for you to be with them) and true to yourself and just be single. Often times when the cheater is caught they have more regret and remorse for getting caught rather than actually hurting their partner.

Now for older couples or married couples statistics have actually shown that only about 20% of cheaters cheat again. That says that 80% go back to rebuilding their relationships. I believe that when it comes to married couples there is more to lose if the person cheats constantly. The cheater jeopardizes a family and the foundation that they and their partner have built. I've heard stories from couples that have been married for over 25 years and people have cheated in those marriages but they worked through it and the person that was cheated on LOVED their significant other enough to stand tall and work it out with the cheater and the cheater had remorse for their infidelity in hurting the one that they loved.

~♥~To The Wonderful PEOPLE In My Circle~♥~

I went back and found this poem that touched my heart. This was written for female friends, but I changed some words for my male friends, but you get the idea of the poem......and I didn't write this but I LOVE it!!!

To the Wonderful People In My Circle

When I was little,
I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
and then I started to become a woman.
And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,
God would show you the best in many friends.
One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.
One friend will say, "Let's cry together,"
another, "Let's fight together,"
another, "Let's walk away together."
One friend will meet your spiritual need,
another your shoe fetish,
another your love for movies,
another will be with you in your season of confusion,
another will be your clarifier,
another the wind beneath your wings.
But whatever their assignment in your life,
on whatever the occasion,
on whatever the day,
or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself ...
those are your best friends.
It may all be wrapped up in one person,
but for many, it's wrapped up in several...
one from 7th grade,
one from high school,
several from the college years,
a couple from old jobs,
on some days your mother,
on some days your neighbor,
on others, your sisters,
and on some days, your daughters.

"Why aren't you with someone???"

I was recently asked a question that I actually often wonder about myself: "Why aren't you with someone." The simple answer "I don't know. I know I have my ways and I'm far too picky." My way of dealing with it is to just put it in God's hands and hope that he brings the right person to me in due time. I must admit on one hand I enjoy my single life, no answering and/or checking in to anyone. Then on the other hand of course we all want a little affection from time to time and I love that.
A friend sent me a poem and expressed how much they wanted me to read and feel the words that were written and to understand what the poem is truly saying. I did and I like it. So enjoy for yourself!

"Because "by TD Jakes

Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize

what a gold mine you are,
Doesn't mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out
that you can't be topped,
Doesn't stop you from being the best.
Just because no one has come along to share your life,
Doesn't mean that day isn't coming.
Just because no one has made this race
worthwhile,
Doesn't give you permission to stop
running.
Just because no one has realized how
much of an awesome woman you are,
Doesn't mean they can affect your
femininity.
Just because no one has shown up who
can love you on your level,
doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs'.
Just because you deserve the very
best there is,
Doesn't mean that life is always fair.
Just because God is still preparing your
king,
Doesn't mean that you're not already a
Queen.
Just because your situation doesn't
seem to be progressing right now,
Doesn't mean you need to change a
thing.
Keep shining, keep running, keep
hoping, and keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are
already.
COMPLETE!!!