~*Real Talk*~

So the saying goes..."How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours" if this is the case why is it when I don't react or retaliate I seem to get the shorter end of the stick? or am I missing something hmmm...

Once upon a time, I was the nicest person you would ever meet. I was kind of a pushover (yes, I will admit it). I never had enemies in high school, in fact I was cool with every "Clique" there was from the band "geeks" to the cheer squad to the jocks to the emo crew. After entering college my nice persona stayed in affect until about my 2nd semester when I got a 'back bone' and spoke my mind to people. When it came down to it people knew when I was serious about something, but aside from when I was serious I was still super nice and got along with everyone.

The Point:
I ultimately learned that majority of the people I went to college with were phony and full of it. There were a couple of people that I became so close with but I ultimately paid the price because while they were the ones doing wrong (cheating, using people, lying to people) in order to save their own asses they "threw me under the bus," why?...because I was closest to them or maybe because I was just the most vulnerable. I can never understand why people don't take responsibility for their own actions but yet they claim to be so real. If there is one thing I can't stand besides a liar is having someone lie on my name, but yet there is no point trying to offer my side of the story to the person they tell the lie to for experiences have proven they are still going to remain there being lied to, cheated on, and used. Going back to the quote "How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours," in the multiple times I have been kicked and let down I have yet to put them on 'blast' by revealing all the evidence I hold and their secrets to the world. So my question remains I do nothing and don't retaliate, I pray and try to figure out why this has happened and yet it seems as thou I get the bad karma, or am I missing something? Am I taking it all as a bad thing when in actuality it is a good thing?

The Lesson:
One thing is for certain from all of this I have definitely learned don't give anyone multiple chances. If you screw me over once that is more than enough. "He that deceives me once, it is his fault; if twice, it is mine."([1659 N. R. Proverbs English, French, Dutch, Italian & Spanish 54])

My Promise to Myself:

To continue to be a better person. To move forward without looking back anymore. Accept that what has happened is what it is and cannot be changed. Let go of all the junk cluttering my mind and move on with positive thoughts. Have faith and know that sometimes life has greater expectations for me than I even have for myself.

***Good riddance and good night blog world. Thanks for being my diary!

"It's not wrong to be nice to everybody but learn to be true to only few. So you won't end up being betrayed by someone whom you've trusted."

*Question Time*

"Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"

Do you believe the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater" to be a fact???

I have had this conversation on several occasions with several different people.

My opinion: I do believe the phrase to be fact but it depends on the person. I think this phrase is more prone to the younger generation of today, not to say that older married men/women don't cheat, but they have a lot more to lose (financial, family, respect, and Love).

When I say younger generation I mean on the scale of those couples that are dating from teens to about 30s. I have known several people on the younger scale that have cheated and after being caught or not caught (as you can see I have not stated confess) they continued to cheat as if they were not even in a relationship. I've never understood the fact of cheating on a constant basis and staying in the relationship, why not be true to the person (that you supposedly had to have loved/liked at some point for you to be with them) and true to yourself and just be single. Often times when the cheater is caught they have more regret and remorse for getting caught rather than actually hurting their partner.

Now for older couples or married couples statistics have actually shown that only about 20% of cheaters cheat again. That says that 80% go back to rebuilding their relationships. I believe that when it comes to married couples there is more to lose if the person cheats constantly. The cheater jeopardizes a family and the foundation that they and their partner have built. I've heard stories from couples that have been married for over 25 years and people have cheated in those marriages but they worked through it and the person that was cheated on LOVED their significant other enough to stand tall and work it out with the cheater and the cheater had remorse for their infidelity in hurting the one that they loved.