*Chris Brown Comeback*

The 2010 BET Awards aired Sunday night with loads of glitz and glamor and a huge surprising/unexpected tribute performance from Chris Brown. I have always respected Brown's craft (dancing, singing). When Michael Jackson passed I always felt that there was one and only ONE person fitting enough to do the tribute, yet of all the tributes that aired they never had him. WHY?.... Because he was going through a public domestic violence situation with his ex-girlfriend which halted his career. Aside from his personal issues...this Sunday proved to me and a lot of America (and w/e other countries that see this awards show) that Brown was and is the only person fit to do a tribute for MJ. Not to knock all the other people (artist), but he matched him perfectly, just like he did when he did the James Brown tribute.




James Brown Tribute (Christina Aguilera included)



Welcome Back Chris!!!

*Movies*

A couple days ago I went to see The Karate Kid in theaters. I must say it was an amazing remake. I always liked the original movie growing up, so it was god to see that for the most part the remake was pretty similar. Of course due to the time change and age differences in the main characters the story was changed. A major difference between the movies though is the fact that in the original Karate Kid the main character learns Karate while in the remake the main character learns Kung Fu, which is still a major question to me as to why they decided on going with that fighting style when the movie is named Karate kid...hmmm. I really like Jaden Smith as an actor, he is definitely a product of his family, his acting chop are outstanding and it is obvious that they will only become better as he gets older.

If you were thinking of going to see this film, don't think any longer just GO SEE IT, definitely worth the expensive cost of seeing a movie today!!!

***Discussion***

Today I got into a debate with one of my friends about who cheats more men or women. So, my friend (male) believes that women cheat more and are better at hiding their "dirt" so you would never know. Also, the women that complain about "all guys are cheaters" are the ones who get involved with the "bad guy." Women should take time to go for the "good guys" that will love them and not treat them badly.

My Opinion: I argued the fact that men DO cheat more than women. I do believe women cheat but it is far easier for a guy to cheat regardless of how good a woman is at "hiding" her "dirt." The one thing that I have heard time and time again is the fact that men can have sex with someone and not have any emotions attached. While in turn women are emotional beings by nature, not saying that all women can't sleep with someone without emotions coming into play, but a good amount can not deal with the burden or emotions of it. I believe if a woman cheats there is a reason behind it, again not to say this for every woman but for a good amount it is the case. As a woman I find that some of the major reasons include no longer feeling appreciated, becoming dissatisfied with the relationship, changes in the partner and self, and the most notably one following the age old saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" meaning being spiteful and cheating as a form of payback. Guys on the other hand, coming from people I have known and talked to, need no reason at all. Temptation is a mans worst enemy and typically if the opportunity presents itself men are going to take it, I do not believe in putting every guy in the same category, so I will say that I believe this theory to be true for some men(those that cheat).

As far as the statement about woman going for the "bad guys" I will agree to that, I myself have fallen victim to it. Although, most don't want to admit it the same is true for most guys, they tend to go to the women that are ultimately the "bad woman." Once that happens guys start placing all women in a "box"(explaining women as being all the same), which isn't true but then it becomes hard trying to open their eyes to that fact. Unfortunately I don't think anything can change this vicious cycle of nature :-(.

*Appointments*

So I just came from the doctor's office with my mom. Mind you she had an appointment for 4:00pm. They didn't call her until almost 5:00pm.

My Issue: What exactly is the point of making an appointment (doctor, salon, etc.) if they are just gonna call on you whenever they feel like it anyway...utter nonsense if you ask me. I don't know maybe I'm just too impatient.

*Question Time*

"Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"

Do you believe the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater" to be a fact???

I have had this conversation on several occasions with several different people.

My opinion: I do believe the phrase to be fact but it depends on the person. I think this phrase is more prone to the younger generation of today, not to say that older married men/women don't cheat, but they have a lot more to lose (financial, family, respect, and Love).

When I say younger generation I mean on the scale of those couples that are dating from teens to about 30s. I have known several people on the younger scale that have cheated and after being caught or not caught (as you can see I have not stated confess) they continued to cheat as if they were not even in a relationship. I've never understood the fact of cheating on a constant basis and staying in the relationship, why not be true to the person (that you supposedly had to have loved/liked at some point for you to be with them) and true to yourself and just be single. Often times when the cheater is caught they have more regret and remorse for getting caught rather than actually hurting their partner.

Now for older couples or married couples statistics have actually shown that only about 20% of cheaters cheat again. That says that 80% go back to rebuilding their relationships. I believe that when it comes to married couples there is more to lose if the person cheats constantly. The cheater jeopardizes a family and the foundation that they and their partner have built. I've heard stories from couples that have been married for over 25 years and people have cheated in those marriages but they worked through it and the person that was cheated on LOVED their significant other enough to stand tall and work it out with the cheater and the cheater had remorse for their infidelity in hurting the one that they loved.

~♥~To The Wonderful PEOPLE In My Circle~♥~

I went back and found this poem that touched my heart. This was written for female friends, but I changed some words for my male friends, but you get the idea of the poem......and I didn't write this but I LOVE it!!!

To the Wonderful People In My Circle

When I was little,
I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
and then I started to become a woman.
And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,
God would show you the best in many friends.
One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.
One friend will say, "Let's cry together,"
another, "Let's fight together,"
another, "Let's walk away together."
One friend will meet your spiritual need,
another your shoe fetish,
another your love for movies,
another will be with you in your season of confusion,
another will be your clarifier,
another the wind beneath your wings.
But whatever their assignment in your life,
on whatever the occasion,
on whatever the day,
or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself ...
those are your best friends.
It may all be wrapped up in one person,
but for many, it's wrapped up in several...
one from 7th grade,
one from high school,
several from the college years,
a couple from old jobs,
on some days your mother,
on some days your neighbor,
on others, your sisters,
and on some days, your daughters.

"Why aren't you with someone???"

I was recently asked a question that I actually often wonder about myself: "Why aren't you with someone." The simple answer "I don't know. I know I have my ways and I'm far too picky." My way of dealing with it is to just put it in God's hands and hope that he brings the right person to me in due time. I must admit on one hand I enjoy my single life, no answering and/or checking in to anyone. Then on the other hand of course we all want a little affection from time to time and I love that.
A friend sent me a poem and expressed how much they wanted me to read and feel the words that were written and to understand what the poem is truly saying. I did and I like it. So enjoy for yourself!

"Because "by TD Jakes

Just because no one has been fortunate enough to realize

what a gold mine you are,
Doesn't mean you shine any less.
Just because no one has been smart enough to figure out
that you can't be topped,
Doesn't stop you from being the best.
Just because no one has come along to share your life,
Doesn't mean that day isn't coming.
Just because no one has made this race
worthwhile,
Doesn't give you permission to stop
running.
Just because no one has realized how
much of an awesome woman you are,
Doesn't mean they can affect your
femininity.
Just because no one has shown up who
can love you on your level,
doesn't mean you have to sink to theirs'.
Just because you deserve the very
best there is,
Doesn't mean that life is always fair.
Just because God is still preparing your
king,
Doesn't mean that you're not already a
Queen.
Just because your situation doesn't
seem to be progressing right now,
Doesn't mean you need to change a
thing.
Keep shining, keep running, keep
hoping, and keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are
already.
COMPLETE!!!

***Don't Waste My Time...***

Here's a poem that I just agree 100% with, at times it may be hard but it is something that needs to be done.

Don't spend major time with minor people.

If there are people in your life that continually
disappoint you, break promises, and stomp on your dreams,
too judgmental, have different values and don't have your
back during difficult times...that is not a friend.
To have a friend, be a friend. Sometimes in life as you grow,
your friends will either grow or go. Surround yourself with
people who reflect values, goals interests and lifestyle.
When I think of any of my successes, I am thankful to GOD
from whom all blessings flow, and to my family and friends that
enrich my life. Over the years my phone book has changed because
I changed for the better. At first you think you're going to be alone, but after a while new people show up in your life that make your life so much sweeter and easier to endure.
Remember what your elders used to say, "Birds of a feather flock together.
If you're an eagle, don't hang around chickens: Chickens Can't Fly!